Decembertime

The holidays are fast approaching and I'm still not completely in the spirit. Maybe it's because I've been hearing Christmas music and setting up decorations at my work for weeks already. Maybe it's because I'm currently writing a horror screenplay that's based around Valentines Day. I think mostly though, it's because I don't want to feel the sadness that I know is in store.

This will be another Christmas alone for me. Sure, I'll see my family, but that's a hassel in itself. I have a very loving, supportive family, but they sure are a bunch of loons. Christmas is not as fun as I'd like it to be and occasionally I have to become a moderator. I'll see my great friends at our annual Christmas party, which will be fantastic. However, most of my friends have a second half. I, on the other hand, do not. This is the lonely part.

Nobody wants to be in a relationship more, than during the holidays. It's a beautiful, magical time and you want to share it with that special someone. Some of the best times in my past relationships have been during the holidays. Unfortunately, when you have that big void in your heart, it can be a lonely season.

This will be the second holiday season in a row with no one to share with for me. I did make a decision about two years ago to not be very proactive with dating. I decided to work more on my own life, and frankly, was certain that I would never find anyone like my last girlfriend. Looking at things now, and after my experiences, I realize that there should always be a happy balance.

True, I'm very busy working on myself and my writing, but there's a problem. This leaves less time for friends, family, and dating. I think it's important not to focus to much on one thing, but focus intently on you and your life as a whole. Do the things you want to do, have fun, and work really hard. I've been mostly focused on the working really hard part and haven't had as much fun as I'd like. I will be attempting to juggle in 2010 and this, I think, will lead to great things.

As far as this holiday season, I can still hope that someone comes along and blows me away, but it's not needed. As a writer, a romantic, a loving person with a huge heart, I've found that sadness, depression, and lonliness don't have to be a bad thing. I'm not saying to go and wallow in your room forever, but accepting it has some benefits.

You can cuddle up on your couch or in your bed with some popcorn and watch those mushy chick flicks. I love doing this. It's theraputic in a way, and yes, i cry on occasion. A few of my favorites RomComs are; Serendipity, My Best Friend's Wedding, Only You, Forgetting Sarah Marshall, and of course Sleepless in Seattle.

You can take in the beautiful lights, Christmas music and friendly people all around you. The holidays truely do bring the best out in people. Ice skating or taking a walk in the cold is fun too.

You can use your emotional rollar coaster to feed you inspiration. Don't let all those emotions bottle up! When I am depressed I love to sit down and write a sad scene in my screenplay. When I'm feeling lonely and wish that I was in love I write a romance scene. These scenes end up being some of the greatest I write because the emotion transfers to the page. If you're not a writer, use it for something you love, singing, photography, knitting, creating holiday cards. Doing what you love gives you a super high that will make you feel amazing.

This wonderful high feels this way because you were productive, doing something that you love, and you were able to release your emotions while doing it. It's a detox system for your soul. There really is no better feeling, except maybe falling in love. For us single folk though, I say, embrace the lonliness this season.

Happy Holidays!